Will the real True Love please stand up!
There once was a popular TV show I used to watch. Four men would claim to be the same man, usually someone half famous, and the contestants were to figure out which one was who he truly said he was. I now imagine our culture as a contestant on this show, and instead of four men, only two come out. (Better chances at least, right?...) They both claim to be love. Mind you, not the love we speak of when we talk about how much we like ice cream or that car, but the ever illusive true love of fairy tales. The stakes are high, this is not merely a game now, for whoever the contestant chooses at the end of the hour will remain as the face of love for our culture. There are two contenders, one is love, the other is a fraud, let us pray that our culture does not lay down in our beds with a fraud!
This game took place a long time ago in our culture. It was the fight of learning what love was. Is it free? Is it a feeling? Is it constant? Can you fall out of it? What does it give you? Is it worth it? We chose, and our marriages, our families, and love in this country was damaged by our choice: we chose to sleep with a fraud. Nearly too late to realize this, may I ask, Will the real True Love please stand up?
But who is this fraud? I contend his name is lust. Think about the questions we have been asking. Is it free? Why? Because I do not want to put into it. Is it a feeling? Why? Because then it becomes easy, we all know what we are feeling. Is it constant? Why? Because if not, then I can fall out of it when I don’t fell like loving. Can you fall out of it? Why? Because I may not want to be tied down to it. What does it give you? Why? Because... isn’t it all about me? And that is why I label this fraud - Lust.
Love is selfless. Love looks to the others needs first. Love cares and does not keep track of injustices. Love forgives. Love is seen by many as a fairy tale. Why? Is it not because we are selfish by nature? It is love we need; it is lust we accept instead.
What is lust? The dictionary describes it as a passionate or overpowering desire or want. It is not merely wanting what you do not have. It is a fixation that is unhealthy focused solely upon personal wants. If a relationship is founded upon this fixation, should we be so amazed when it falls apart?
Marriage is the joining of two people who become inseparable. They become one person. If we then enter a marriage with lust as our foundation (selfishness), we are unable to love as we should, we continually expect and are disappointed when our expectations are not met, we become disillusioned by it and begin to ‘fall out of love’ (or should I say lust) and the marriage rarely survives after that point.
So I ask....
“Will the real True Love please stand up!”
Jared Williams
This game took place a long time ago in our culture. It was the fight of learning what love was. Is it free? Is it a feeling? Is it constant? Can you fall out of it? What does it give you? Is it worth it? We chose, and our marriages, our families, and love in this country was damaged by our choice: we chose to sleep with a fraud. Nearly too late to realize this, may I ask, Will the real True Love please stand up?
But who is this fraud? I contend his name is lust. Think about the questions we have been asking. Is it free? Why? Because I do not want to put into it. Is it a feeling? Why? Because then it becomes easy, we all know what we are feeling. Is it constant? Why? Because if not, then I can fall out of it when I don’t fell like loving. Can you fall out of it? Why? Because I may not want to be tied down to it. What does it give you? Why? Because... isn’t it all about me? And that is why I label this fraud - Lust.
Love is selfless. Love looks to the others needs first. Love cares and does not keep track of injustices. Love forgives. Love is seen by many as a fairy tale. Why? Is it not because we are selfish by nature? It is love we need; it is lust we accept instead.
What is lust? The dictionary describes it as a passionate or overpowering desire or want. It is not merely wanting what you do not have. It is a fixation that is unhealthy focused solely upon personal wants. If a relationship is founded upon this fixation, should we be so amazed when it falls apart?
Marriage is the joining of two people who become inseparable. They become one person. If we then enter a marriage with lust as our foundation (selfishness), we are unable to love as we should, we continually expect and are disappointed when our expectations are not met, we become disillusioned by it and begin to ‘fall out of love’ (or should I say lust) and the marriage rarely survives after that point.
So I ask....
“Will the real True Love please stand up!”
Jared Williams
